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r teenage in family, but all the family members educate each other. (iv) Family education is not only the education of the pre-school education, but also all life education.”[3]P52

3.Main problems in today’s Chinese family education
3.1 Parents’ mistake in conception of value and wrong activities leading
A child’s conception of morality and value orientation learns from acquistion, especially from his parents. So parents affect the child’s mind greatly.“(i) If parents always say some positive view, such as, ‘Money makes the mare go’ or ‘Money talks.’”[4]P23 The child may form a conception that people live in order to make money which is a wrong view of value. (ii) Parents sometimes endorse some wrong behaviors, the child may form an idea that those wrong behaviors are right.
3.2 Utopian expectation of children’s education
Chinese parents produce a great impact on children’s future. When a baby born in a Chinese family, his parents often design a future for him, no matter the child likes it or not. That is to say, Chinese parents would enforce their children living under the designed future instead of considering children’s feelings and abilities. “Just as Phierbaha says ‘Parents’ biggest false is they stand in their position and interfere children’s nature development.’”[5]P24 In China, we can find the following scenes easily: Parents take their children to various kinds of lessons after school. Children would be punished if they didn’t get a good mark in examinations.
3.3 Harmful types of family education
3.3.1 A utocratic type of family education
In some Chinese families, parents require their children should do whatever they want their children do. If the children didn’t do as their order, they will scold the children, even worse, they will punish the children. 本论文由英语论文网 www.51lunwen.org整理提供“A questionnaire of 300 students in a middle school shows: Ninety percent of the students had been punished!” [6]P24. They can’t bear that children did’t obey them. They restrict their children. They check their children’s cellphone.
3.3.2 Indulgent type of family education
Parents’ love is very important for the psychology development of teenagers. However, in modern China, a child is probably the only child in a family, and parents give too much love to the child. It leads to a situation that the child can’t live without their parents. They seldom run into troubles because their parents had already solved the problem for them before they meet the problem. 本论文由英语论文网 www.51lunwen.org整理提供This kind of children can’t get along with other people very well. They consider themselves as the most important ones. Even worse, they may not have enough independent ability to live in the society without their parents’ help. When they go to society, they will feel depressed. “In a investigation of 4000 youth criminals, 16.3% of them receive this kind of family education. ” [7]P24
3.3.3 Careless type of family education
It usually refers to parents who lack of responsibility to take care of their children. Young parents are working hard to make money. They don’t have enough time to get along with their children. According to a survey, the children whose parents are individual entrepreneur, taxi driver or labor contractor, break the law easily. The main reason is the parents mentioned above, who have few time at home. 本论文由英语论文网 www.51lunwen.org整理提供Even they are at home, they seldom put their hearts on their children. They