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usted her husband. When people gossiped that her husband had relationship with Scarlet, she was not angry as other women did. At a party during which all the people gathered together intending to see the fight between the two women, Scarlet and her husband were saved by Melanie’s kindness , love and outspoken trust which had been in her voice as she crossed and face the curious, malicious covertly hostile crowd. How neatly Melanie had scotched the scandal, keeping Scarlet at her side all through the dreadful evening! People were somewhat bewildered, but they were polite. B. What to Learn from Melanie Nowadays, family life is still important for women. But even women years ago already spent most of their time on the family, there were still endless problems encountering them. So how can people have a harmonious and happy family? Maybe you can learn something from Melanie, the other heroin in Gone with the Wind. 1. Trust The best advantage we can learn from Melanie is: trust your spouse. Women in today’ society suffer from divorce more frequently. The divorce rate is higher and higher than ever before. One factor accounts for the high divorce rate is distrust between the wives and husbands. Some women complain that their husbands do not come back home punctually after work. For example, if the husbands have not been back after the work time, the wives may wonder what the husbands are doing. Why do they have so many appointments of work? Are they really working over time? Are they having an informal relationship with other female workmates? Will they go dance or have dinner or date other beautiful, young, charming ladies? And some time when husbands forget their birthday, wedding anniversary, Valentine’s day or other important festivals which the wives regard highly, the wives may suspect whether they do not love them any more, whether they are not so attractive to them or for some other reasons. With such suspects in mind, the wives can not wait calmly. They may even employ detectives to trace husbands’ life. When the husbands find what the wives do behind them, they may feel uncomfortable to stay with them. Then a previous happy family may become a battle field. So husbands and wives should trust each other. 2. Respect Respect is also important for a happy family life. Carnegie, a famous American writer, has written a famous book titled “the weakness of the human being”, in which he says that if you want to have a happy family you should never try to change your partner’s hobbits, ideas ,etc. Every person has his own characters and features. Being a spouse does not mean that husband should reshape his own personalities or belief or other routine according to the requirements of the wife. If the husband can accept wife’ suggestions, that is ok. But if the husband really will not change, women should remember never to force the husband to do it. Even though you two are couple now, respect is also needed between you. Respect can make the partner have their own secret or make the other part comfortable. Women should not only respect husbands but also the children. In today’s society there are some cases that the mother or the father read the child’s private letters or diaries, which is against the law. Every person has his own secret which he does not want to be found by others including the parents. Even though the parents say that they do this because they love children and care about their growth and do not want them to get i