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提高心理素质。人与人之间的交往，是思想、能力、知识及心理的整体作用，哪一方面的欠缺都会影响人际关系的质量。有的学生在人际交往中存在着社交恐惧、胆怯、羞怯、自卑、冷漠、孤独、封闭、猜疑、自傲、嫉妒等不良心理，这些都不易建立良好的人际关系。
1 . Improve the psychological quality . The interaction between people , is the ideas, abilities , knowledge, and overall psychological effect , which will affect the gaps in the quality of interpersonal relationships . Some students in interpersonal relationships exist in social fear, timidity , shyness , self-esteem , apathy , loneliness, closed , suspicion , pride , jealousy and other negative psychological, which are not easy to establish a good relationship . Therefore, the students should strengthen self-discipline , improve their psychological quality, to interact in a positive manner .

提高自身的人际魅力。应该说，每个个体都有其内在的人际魅力，人际魅力是一个人综合素质的社交生活中的体现，这就要求在校的大学生丰富自己的内心世界，从仪表到谈吐，从形象到学识，多方位提高自己。

2 . Improve their interpersonal charm. It should be said that each individual has its inherent charm interpersonal , interpersonal charm of the overall quality of a person 's social life manifestation , which requires the college students to enrich their inner world, from the meter to the conversation from the image to the knowledge , multi-faceted improve themselves. Psychological research shows that the initial exchanges, give each other a good social image impressed , and with the deepening of exchanges , knowledge is more dominant. Especially the students personality development , expand their content.

善用交际技巧

Use communication skills

换位思考。这对建立良好的人际关系很重要。如我们经常用，如果我在他的位置上，我会怎样处理？经常站在对方的角度去理解和处理问题，一切就会变得简单多了。一般而言，善于交往的人，往往善于发现他人的价值，懂得尊重他人，愿意信任他人，对人宽容，能容忍他人有不同的观点和行为，不斤斤计较他人的过失，在可能的范围内帮助他人而不是指责他人。

1 . Empathy . This is very important to establish a good relationship . As we often use , if I was in his position, I would do with ? Often stand each other's point of view to understand and deal with the problem , everything becomes much simpler. Generally, sociable , often good at discovering the value of others , respect for others, willing to trust others, to human tolerance, tolerate others have different views and behavior , do not care about other people's fault , where possible , to assist the others rather than blame others . He knows how to "Do you want others to treat you, you have to treat others " ; know how to " Do unto others , do not impose on others" ; know how to " get friends is the best way to become a friend to someone " ; know someone of others rather than their own , and thus can not be forced , along with friends should be kept Datong , seeking minor differences .

2 . Use of praise and criticism. Psychologists believe that praise can release a person 's energy , and arouse people 's enthusiasm. "Commending weak body can become stronger, to give horrible inner calm and dependence , allowing the injured nerves to rest and strength , to give people with a view adversity determination to succeed ." There are newspaper reports, a European woman to travel , she learned to speak several languages "thank you", " nice of you ," " You're great ! " And so on , wherever , are subject to a warm reception . Sincere , timely and appropriately represent your praise of others , people also want to praise something that can enhance mutual attraction.

Graceful way to say thank you to be good . We often think that peopl